It was the eye color that decided it for Rene and Trayce. Like many couples, they had decided to savor their time together for a few years before having a child. But they knew they always wanted kids. So when the time was right, the couple chose Xytex. “A friend used Xytex and had a wonderful experience, giving birth to a healthy baby boy,” said Rene.
It was also Xytex’s wealth of information that helped them make their decision. “Many places only offered baby photos, and while it’s helpful to see what those baby features look like, it’s even better to see what those baby features will become. And the information was so detailed, right down to whether there are attached or detached ear lobes!” said Rene. “I was able to get an audio interview with our donor, and we also chose an open donor. It’s not necessarily a big deal to us, but our child might have questions, and it would give the option when our child became 18 so we could try to locate the donor.”
Another thing that Rene and Trayce liked was when the question of eye color came up. “People always ask me what color my eyes are, and I always tell them hazel,” said Rene. “But Trayce always says they’re not hazel, they’re blue. When I called the donor counselor to ask if there were any updates to this potential donor, she said that he had changed his eye color from hazel to blue! It was just a funny coincidence that like me, his eye color was actually somewhere between hazel and blue, and it helped us know that we had made the right choice.”
Erykson Riley was born on March 17, St. Patrick’s Day. His parents report that his eyes are a bright blue. “We love just watching him grow and learn to do things, watch him experiencing things for the first time,” said Trayce. “When I see Rene and Erykson together, even the bad days when he’s fussy aren’t so bad. Life just takes on a different meaning when you have a child.”
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Great job!!!! I love the story and picture!!!! What a beautiful baby!!!!! Xytex is amazing!!!! I hope that more couples are as fortunate as we were!!!!
I am so happy to hear this story! I would love someone to email me and tell me about their experiece with donor sperm.We are going through treatment and will be using donor sperm.Hopefully it will be happening in January.
We find it hard to talk to alot of people about who haven’t gone through this and hopefully we will speak to someone through this newsletter.
Thanks so much
Debbie
Hi Debbie, we had to use donor sperm to conceive our son. Like you, we found it VERY hard to talk about. In fact, not only does our child not know, either do many of our family or friends. If you’d like to talk, respond back here and we’ll see how we can connect. Best wishes. By the way, my son JUST turned 12!
Debbie, I carry the CF gene and my husband had a vasectomy so we chose to use a donor. At first, we too were scared about what people would think; but I could not lie to everyone I know. We had to do fertility counseling before IVF - the counselor helped A LOT!! We are not going to put it on a billboard; in our case some people know and some don’t but either way we are not ashamed of the decision we have made. Those narrow minded individuals that might question “your” decision are just that narrow minded. The decisions we have all made are our own and some were very difficult decisions to come to. If your friends or family do not respect that they have the problem not you. In the end we all have a family that we might not have without the help of Xytex and our donor. Good Luck!!
Hi,i just wondered if you had any ideas for us…….alot of people already know that we cant use my husbands sperm because of medication he has to take. What happens when i show up pregnant? everyone knows we’ve considered adoption…..